:(. I love perfumes and scented bath products, but my scalp is really allergic to many fragrances. Im the same way about artificial fragrances and I love essential oils. People are pretty accommodating when its a medical reason. It's easy to fix. In the case of sniffing, offer your colleague a box of tissues or suggest that she should stay home until she feels better. Also changing all your hygiene products is actually pretty freaking arduous for a lot of people. Yup. LW didnt disclose her ethnicity (and she shouldnt feel pressured to) but I know from having friends with various backgrounds (some Indian, some black, etc) that, for example, sometimes someone of Indian heritage will be mocked for smelling like curry, even when they dont. The last few days its been cold, windy and raining. How best to handle a situation like this? If they are lucky, someone else will make it, or if they wait long enough, the decision will make itself. Im not allowed to wear headphones at work, but occasionally when the boss is out I sneakily put some on anyway and I can hear her sniffling even with white noise, pink noise, and any kind of music at full blast. Because apparently I couldnt resist saying that chicken definitely has at least as much innate flavour as any other meat, just different. Lets see if we can narrow down where/what it is.. You smell something you associate with your Grans house and if you loved her, then its great, but if she was a nasty horrid person and hit you, you might remember that. Dont even know if it was the pecan pie, but havent been able to eat it since (19 years on!). BTW, I always carry surgical masks and charcoal filters with me. Not liking or hating a scent is not a good enough reason to ask someone to make huge routine changes at home. Or heck, if OP stores the oils on or in her dresser, it may be that some of the clothing items have picked up a hint of the scent. Find out what causes asthma, and how to take control of your symptoms. (Sometimes I feel like a hypochondriac, since I have so many medical conditions, but I swear Im not! If I manage to get a load of casual-time-only clothes put together (instead of mixed work and casual), I might throw in a little bit. It is amazing how difficult it can be to shake that incensey smell if you commonly use incense or oils or other such products at home. It may be that she or he is having an psychosomatic reaction to a scent however. Unscented soaps, lotions, body washes, deodorants, laundry detergents, and dishwasher detergents are all easier to find than unscented shampoo. They never get to work on time and are five to fifteen minutes late every single day. At least she would actually SEE you trying something and, who knows, it might take care of any lingering scents. That scent in particular seems to really linger even if youre not specifically wearing it. I ALWAYS try to sniff and lick sweet girls' shoes. Do not reply with anger just because the customer is being immature and working through their anger in an unhealthy way. What can I say, I both went through a goth phase in high school AND lived in San Francisco for several years! I was going to say this. Even when I blow my nose a lot it doesn't help sometimes. Frankly I am sick of it. My wife gave up chewing gum around me years ago, before I realized I was the one with the problem. Good luck!! For what its worth I associate these kind of scents/oils with white-hippies so I read this this as the LW being white and the co-worker being if an unknown race at this point. Continuous sinus nose pressure after 2nd child? Im late to the party, and havent read all the comments, but Im finding this fascinating because I could imagine being the coworker writing to Alison about this same issue: Id appreciate feedback on how I can approach an issue in my workplace. Sadly, lots of people fall for this. The human brain is able to play some crazy tricks on us. Agree. First it was people smacking gum, then chewing crunchy foods with their mouth open, and now its almost any audible chewing sounds at all. Yeah I agree its rude of the coworker. Yeah she can look for more scent sources, but none of this makes any sense. This. This is a coworker/management problem, not an OP needs to take special tablets and buy a new bedspread problem. . Hippie/hipster stink is the common parlance. Your coworker may just be associating you with whatever smell she didnt like before. I cannot imagine going to work everyday without perfume on. Do you wear those oils outside of work? Maybe the OP or the manager can talk with the cleaning crew to find out what products they are using to clean the desks, carpets, etc. You are a much nicer person than I. I would have drawn a line in the sand with your co-worker in a likely not-nice manner. She is being a jerk. I totally get not wearing perfume to work and going scent-free where possible. I went through a brief patchouli phase in my late teens. But Im not going to stop wearing it on weekends and Im not going to stop burning incense in my home. Im not sure the OP really can win with this co-worker. If one were going to be pedantic about it, the solid perfumes would be the only ones properly referred to by the word perfume. If you were my office mate, LW, and told me youd done all of this, Id be thanking you, even if I was still being triggered. I wonder, are there treatment options for people who are extra sensitive to fragrances? I had a coworker who happened to have her desk right below one of the (old) building's AC vents, and she would sniffle / cough at least several times every single hour. They Are Constantly Complaining About You: If a coworker constantly complains about you, they want the bosses to know that they are not happy with you. However, consideration goes both ways and it sounds like your coworker is taking this to an extreme. Thats just how it is. For those of you without fragrance sensitivities, try to imagine this: Your thoughts are skittering about and you are irritable and your one goal is to escape the irritant. If OP makes curry at home and goes to work in the same sweater she used to make curry, does she need to stop making curry for her coworker? Time for bending over backwards is past here. I thought he did it brilliantly well even though it was a tough thing. There's a new guy at work, he's been here for about a month, he sits opposite me and is driving me insane already. Its also a scent that has some religious/racial connotations to people. You can find these variations, among others: a quick touch of an index finger to the nose. I think considerate coworkers like you should do what they can to help out other coworkers, but at the same time, you shouldnt have to give up something you enjoy using in your free time because of a work conflict. Problem is, no one around you sees the flames or senses the heat, so they have no sense of urgency to bolt for the doors. The only thing Id point out is that the coworker specifically mentioned patchouli when making comments about the smell, and lemon definitely does not smell like patchouli. But she is still complaining and making snarky, belittling comments that seem out of place in a professional workplace. I have the worst reaction to it myself. That sucks you can't have headphones in. Please cut it out.). Where a light scented spray of perfume or body mist or even deodorant will fade away throughout the day, patchouli oil is there forever. I will also say, as someone who is very sensitive to smells, that if the scent bothers the coworker it would probably only take a trace amount for her to smell it, although shes handling it like a jerk. Chicken is the reason I gave up vegetarianism after 7 years and I honestly could go without any other meat lamb is nice, steak is good occasionally. I was going to suggest this. Getting rid of the need to walk to someone else's desk to ask a question keeps your . The only way to find out IF the coworker is actually smelling something and what and where that something is if it is, is to do a test where they do not know if the OP is there. 7)Constant messaging and texting Constant communication at work (as well as at home) is a very very good sign of friendship and mutual understanding. Usually trying to clear the flood and congestion by blowing my nose is like trying to slam a logjam through the eye of a needle. I don't think he would ever be unfaithful to me and I don't think he is guilty of anything other than getting to know his coworkers and being friendly. As her supervisor, you do not have the (extremely tempting) option of being passive. Handling 'Gross' Things Can Be Tricky for HR Advice for HR professionals. I'm a 54 yr old female. It seems that the OP has taken a lot of measures to make sure that the coworker is comfortable. And people tend to become immune to the smell of their own parfume so they wear much more than they need to..which is essentially overkill and obnoxious to everyone around them. very invasive advice). It went something like;"Pete, I need to give you feedback. Yes, this is what Im finding a little boggling about a lot of the comments talking about scents at home, in mattresses, sheets, etc. Your symptoms are very common for people who have a form of acid reflux called laryngopharyngeal reflux - also known as "silent reflux" because many people with LPR don't have the traditional symptoms of heartburn. Every. Its also possible to have the upholstery and carpet in your office carrying the scent and be unaware of it. If it were a worse reaction I might say something, but right now I dont. I worked with someone who really didnt like one of our co-workers so she was constantly making mean comments about this person scent and appearance. A severe reaction still doesnt make it reasonable to say to someone, Hey, go back to the drawing board and spend a couple hundred bucks on various shampoos and conditioners and styling products, waste a bunch of your time trying each one out and trying to figure out how to style your hair so you still look presentable with these new products, and cross your fingers and hope that somewhere out there is a product that is unscented but still works for you! Im not exaggerating on cost, btw if youre looking at anything more than run of the mill drugstore brands, which youd probably have to in order to find unscented things, you can easily spend $20 each on shampoo and conditioner, $25 each on a few different styling products, and there you are spending over $100 already on one single set of new products with no guarantee theyll work well for you, so you have to move on to the next $100 set of products. 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